Once we find that one person who makes us want to be better, though, everything changes. At that point, we reach an agreement or go back to the drawing board.
You've always had a need for knowledge, and although you may not be very book smart, you do have incredible intuitive talents and insight at times.
Although it has taken some time for you to recognise this 'bad habit' in yourself, during the sun square north node you will realise just how detrimental it has been.
You care deeply about the person you're with and want things to go well, so you've realised it's time to start digging out the bad stuff and throwing it away.
You have had a suspicion about yourself for quite some time, but whenever it has been tested, you have either defended it or denied it.
Your romantic life has suffered because you have been unable to accept a truth about yourself. There is a problem when your spouse joins in on the plot.
Because you've refused to alter your behaviour, your significant other has learned to accommodate your negative behaviours and even encourage them.
You feel terrible at the thought of being dependant on another person's enablement.
You have a hard time admitting that you are wrong, and even more so that you have been wrong for a very long time, and that this is negatively impacting your personal life, and notably your romantic relationships.
You are a contributing factor to the issue, and by accepting this, you'll be able to begin fixing it.
You'll shift from a "sudden revelation" to a "task force of change"; you'll want this change immediately and be willing to do whatever it takes to cut off the threads that may lead you back to bad habits.